Is there stuff in your life that you regret but can’t do anything to change the past? Dwelling on these regrets can cause frustration, stress, lack of confidence, and lost time. Everyone should enjoy life. You can’t afford to spend a lot of time nursing wounds from regrets in your life.
Though painful, mistakes can teach you some lessons that can shape your way from now on. Moreover, you can learn from your own mistakes and those made by others.
In this article, I share amazing sure ways for you to avoid regrets in your life so that you live to enjoy your life more.
1. Avoid staying too long on a job that is not rewarding
Most times, change is uncomfortable, and people suffer from the fear of the unknown. However, when you stay long at a job that you hate, it will take a toll on your health, happiness, and confidence. You will also be wasting precious time when you would otherwise use that time to build a business or find another more fulfilling job.
It would be best if you took action sooner than later. Talk to your boss or the other stakeholders to find out if things can change for the better. If not, begin to look for opportunities outside that company and move out when the time is right before you regret staying on for too long.
2. Continuously upgrade your skills
Life is constantly changing. If you are to continue being relevant, you need to learn new things, especially in your area of expertise or business. Follow the trends and adjust accordingly to be successful. Balance your free time between learning and entertainment. This way, you will not regret missing opportunities for growth and development.
3. Take timely action on your goals
So you have drawn all these beautiful-measurable plans and know your goals, but you do not dare to take the first step towards achieving your goals. Find a balance between researching and implementing. Just begin on what needs to get done, and you will learn more as you go along.
Delaying may cause you to lose your focus and zeal, and eventually, you may drop your overall goals. Instead, give your plans a timeline and stick to the timelines as much as possible. If you are currently on the fence, this should help you move.
4. Have a work-life balance
Work-life balance is the equilibrium between personal life and career work. A good work-life balance will save you stress and frustration. As a result, you will be more confident, motivated, and engaged. You will then avoid regretting spending too much time at work or even not spending enough time growing your business.
5. Listen more than you speak
We have two ears and one mouth to speak less and listen more. In this case, listening refers to taking what the other person is saying without planning what you will say as soon as they finish speaking. It also means not interrupting the speaker and not completing their sentences.
The benefit for you is that you will better understand what you contribute to and avoid regretting what you say.
6. Spend time with your children
As parents, you need to know what is going on in your children’s lives and how you can guide and help them. You will find peace in knowing about your children’s lives. The children will also feel valued and most likely avoid making mistakes in their lives due to your guidance. If your children are still at home, make sure to spend quality time with them and enjoy life as a family.
In addition to showing them your love, tell them that you love them and they are precious and special to you. They will learn a lot from you. While respecting your adult children’s schedule, block out time for you to get together and engage in some activity with them. If you cannot meet, block out time to speak over the phone without interruptions.
Communicate with your children as much as possible because you do not know how long you have each other.
7. Spend time alone with your spouse
After living together, spouses become overpowered by the day-to-day demands that they forget or lose interest in nurturing their relationship. Unfortunately, this could lead to frustrations in the marriage and, worst-case divorce.
To avoid that, begin making time for your marriage to prevent regrets when the marriage fails since you did your best to invest in the marriage.
8. Acknowledge your parents and guardians
Your parents and guardians will not be around forever. If you are blessed to have yours alive, purpose to appreciate them, care for them and spend time with them as much as you can. You may not always agree with their methods but as long as they are not abusive to you, shower them with all the love, care, and support that you can gather. If you do that, you will have no regrets when that time comes.
9. Nurture your spiritual life
Your belief in God, a higher power, will influence what you believe to be right or wrong. It will affect what matters most to you, how you feel and think about yourself and others. Depending on what you believe, your spirituality will offer you the faith to keep pushing on, knowing that God is in control and He has got good plans for you. You will find hope that things will get better than they currently are.
Therefore, it is crucial to nurture your spiritual life to avoid regrets from the bad decisions due to having no guiding principles and values.
10. Be slow to show your anger
We have all been angry at one point in our lives. Anger could be towards ourselves, others, or even God. At the height of anger, you may say and do things that you will not be able to retrieve. But, on the other hand, repressed anger can destroy you; therefore, you need to balance it.
Being slow to show your anger is an art that you need to consciously begin to cultivate until it becomes a natural reaction for you. It will save you lots of regrets in your life.
11. Live your dream and not another’s
You are a unique and special person with dreams of your own. It would be best if you were true to yourself and not be driven by what others expect of you.
Discover your purpose and what you enjoy doing and begin taking action towards that direction—even when others think you should be doing what they love for you to do. Then, respectfully turn them down and run towards your goals. Do not let what others think about you to define you.
12. Learn to say ‘no’ when you have to
When you live your dream and have your own goals to achieve, you will find it necessary to say ‘no’ to requests that are out of line. In some cases, you may need to compromise (that is, if you want to agree to the request); otherwise, most times, you will find that you will need to firmly but kindly say ‘no.’
Learning to say ‘no’ will save you many regrets, e.g., when the errands take the time you would have otherwise used to complete your work. However, saying ‘no’ should not be taken personally. You say ‘no’ to the task at hand and not to the person.
13. Realize that you are responsible for your happiness
Happiness is a state of mind for which you are fully accountable. You have no control over 10% of what happens to you. The 90% accounts for how you react to those events from the 10%.
Your reaction greatly determines if you will be happy or not. Your happiness will begin when you do not get worked up by those adverse events in your life. Only you can get to that point.
14. Know that friends come and go
Some friends—except for spouses—come into our lives for a season. When that season ends, they will go away. Thinking that your friendships will remain the same as the years go by till you die will make you put in a lot of effort and time that you will later regret.
Let people go if they want to go. Holding onto people and working too hard to continue pleasing them will only stress you. Avoid negative energy as much as you can. No one is guaranteed to walk with you forever. Don’t get so attached to anyone. Even your current best friend could change in the years to come.
Let go of toxic relationships, like those where you find yourself investing too much in a friendship with someone who does not give you the same importance. If you do not, you will regret having wasted a lot of your time on these friendships.
15. Believe that you are more robust and more intelligent than you think
You have tremendous potential despite what you believe about yourself. If you do nothing about this potential, the chances are that you will begin to regret it at some point in your life.
If you have trouble believing that you are a powerful force that can cause things to happen, use these powerful-positive affirmations to get you started in your knowledge of your strength, bravery, and smartness.
Set your goals and work hard towards achieving them, avoiding all destructions and negative talk. People are at different stages in their lives, do not compare yourself but embrace where you are in life. Comparing yourself with others may frustrate you and discourage you from achieving your goals.
16. Quickly get over your disappointments
Looking too long at the closed door (disappointments in life) will cause you not to see the one that has opened up (new opportunities). The disappointments could be in relationships, jobs, businesses, etc.
Whatever the case, pick yourself up and keep moving. It will get better along the way. If you spend lots of precious time crying over spilled milk, you will find yourself regretting it later in life.
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17. Take care of your health
Ignoring healthy eating, exercise, and sleeping enough will cause you complications that you will regret in the long run. So pick up two things to begin with, and continue building on the list until you develop a healthy lifestyle. You do not want to get a diagnosis that makes you regret why you did not care for your body sooner.
18. Avoid Procrastination
One amazing sure way to avoid regrets in your life is to avoid procrastination, which is the thief of time. Time waits for no man to complete their tasks.
Procrastination leads to a significant workload, working under pressure, stress, and underperformance because you are in a hurry to complete your tasks in a limited time. You may even miss some significant opportunities that you will regret when procrastinating.
19. Live in the present
You need to live your life not in the past, nor the future, but in the present. Both the past and the future are nonexistent. You cannot be physically present in either of them. Because of that, you need to embrace the present and enjoy life as you move along.
When you regret the past or plan for the future without necessarily taking any action, you will only waste time that will make you have many regrets in life.
20. Be organized
When you know where everything is, it will save you time when finding things. For example, you may need to present a document for an important contract. You may miss the contract if you cannot find it in time because of your disorganization. Worse still is if you mistakenly shred or destroy the correct document due to your disorganization!
Being organized saves you stress and helps you be more focused and productive. In addition, you can easily keep track of what you have so you do not have to spend money buying the exact items you already have (like when you cannot find where you kept those birthday candles and you have to buy some more).
21. Watch your words
Words are powerful tools. Observe your words. You say what you are, so you should speak positively about yourself and others. Saying something to another can either crush them or make them feel like they can conquer the world. Watch what you think because it becomes words. Avoid speaking in anger so that you do not regrate whatever you have said in haste.
22. Believe that your location and background do not define you
Some people may seem to have an advantage over you. That should not discourage you if you desire to change your life. Work hard, learn as much as you can and upgrade your skills. Feeling sorry for yourself and focusing on your weak points will only make you regret it later in life.
In conclusion, you cannot change the past and all the regrets in your life, but you can focus on positively transforming the present and the way forward. First, it would help to move on from that guilt holding you down. Then, as you move on, use the above tips to guide you to avoid mistakes that would result in regrets in your life.
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